“Woman is the companion of man, gifted with equal mental capacity.” - Gandhi, who beat his wife and opposed birth control and abortion
“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it.” - Roseanne Barr, TERF
"Men and boys, we show our manhood through the way we treat our women." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu
“If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.” - Margaret Thatcher, war criminal
The goal of aspiring to equality with men is an illusion of progress, an enforcement of the gender binary and patriarchal values. Women occupy all types of bodies and cultures. There is no such thing as a universal experience of womanhood.
This is a reminder that the world is full of badass women who are self-determined, strong, revolutionary, creative, and whose success or morality is not defined by the capitalistic standards of white feminism.
I want to get good at this. I want to be a person who is safe to confront about my racism, my capitalism, my ableism, my ageism, and my looksism. I want to be a good confronter who doesn’t back down and who feels entitled to a just world. I want us to all remember that we have the most responsibility to change, to listen, and to act when we are in the position of privilege. I think this is what it means to be an activist, to be an ally to our friends and ourselves. It doesn’t mean being perfect, and any attachment to perfection only undoes us. It means a commitment to a lifelong process of unlearning, of fighting the bullshit inside and outside us with equal fervor. That is a commitment of love and trust to our friends and all the other people in the world. It is a commitment to fight and it is a commitment to win.
Thanks sp0ka for sharing this Dean Spade piece with me way back when & reminding me of it again today!